I’m so excited to be starting Twin month with Becky!! She is the first of the twin mommas I know celebrating her First Momma-versary this year.
This post is going up a day late – Grey and Micah turned one yesterday, but both have been a bit under the weather. Say a prayer for them okay?
So here’s Becky talking about her sweet boys and her first year as a mom.
Hi! I love guest posts, I love questionnaires, but I really REALLY like to talk about myself and my babies – thus the blog. My name is Becky and I have two adorable little one year old boys named Micah and Grey. Our family looks like this:
What 3 things would you tell a first time mom about the first year of their baby’s life.
1. Everybody has advice. Everybody has horror stories. Everybody wants to tell you what kind of mother to be, and what kind of child you have. Ignore them. Experience this yourself. Let your baby show you who she is, and discover what type of mother she needs. Then just be that.
2. Write. Write. Write. Photograph. Photograph. Photograph. So many little things happen every day, and so many changes occur that you’ll have a different baby every week. Document things so that you don’t forget. Try to take at least one decent picture every week, and once a month write down all your baby’s new tricks, likes, and dislikes.
3. Forget the bad and relish in the good. When you look back at the first year of your baby’s life, you don’t want to dwell on the baby puke pooling in the cups of your bra or the way that you freaked out at your husband after 14 straight sleepless hours. Those things don’t matter. Remember them only as funny anecdotes. The memories to hold on to and cherish are of your baby sleeping on your chest. The first time he smiled, I mean REALLY smiled at you. His first words. That funny sound he made when he was gassy.
What has been the best moment of your first year as a mom?
Moment? There can’t be one best moment, can there? My favorite moments though, are quiet ones. Usually they’re when my little boys are snuggly and close. It might be early in the morning, when my husband Travis brings them in to bed with us to play, and they’re just so excited so see us and be awake that they want to tickle and play and kiss. It might be on a drowsy summer afternoon, with a baby on my chest and a baby on Travis’ and all they want to do is play with my hair and coo little baby songs. It might be sitting outside their bedroom door, and listening to them in their beds, talking to each other and laughing at each other before they fall asleep.
But it’s hard to say. There are lots of best moments.
What are you most looking forward to in the next year?
I can’t wait until my boys can talk. Right now they sign a little, and they say a few words. They sing CONSTANTLY, and it’s so funny. But I wish I could tell what they were thinking.
The other day, Micah woke up from his nap and when I picked him up he yelled “Jack!” several times. Jack is my brother, who we hadn’t seen for a few weeks. I think he was having a dream about his uncle Jack, and I just can’t wait until they’re is big enough to tell me things like that.
Hmm, what are those little boys thinking?`
Tell us about your little one.
I actually have two little ones! Grey and Micah are identical twin boys. They are so spunky and fun. Micah is a little skinnier, because he’s always running around. He doesn’t have time to sit still and eat! He’s so wiggly, and silly! He’s taken to making silly faces, and shaking his head while he walks around until he falls over, and then lies on the ground and laughs! He loves his brother, and is always trying to stroke, hug and kiss Grey. He is a daddy’s boy and a grandma’s boy, but not a mama’s boy. (Sad face.)
Grey is a little solemner, and is (thank goodness!) a serious mama’s boy. He loves to go to the park, and will stand and knock at the front door until we go outside to play. He’s so sweet tempered and hates to see other people sad. Even in the midst of crying, he’ll smile and laugh to try to make someone else feel better. He loves to touch faces and snuggle. He’ll sit quietly singing on my lap and is always talking. He even talks in his sleep!
How are you celebrating Grey and Micah’s birthday?
Their birthday was actually this weekend and sadly the boys were so sick! I tried to take birthday pictures and they were so pathetic! I made them an elaborate and beautiful cake, and they refused to eat it. Grey accidentally got some frosting on his hand (when he was trying to grab the lit candle) and started panicking and crying. He was trying to wipe it off, and stick it in MY mouth, but he refused to try it. Hopefully everyone will be better next weekend and we’ll have a party. I’m even going to let them each have a cake to smash, if they want it.
What was the biggest hurdle you overcame in the last year?
I guess my biggest hurdle was two-part, first I had to stop judging myself when I “failed” at something that I thought was important, and second was to stop judging other moms when they parented different than me. When I started giving my babies formula in addition to breastmilk… I seriously had hourly meltdowns. I thought I was failing at breastfeeding because I didn’t have enough faith. I thought that if I stopped breastfeeding, I was a bad mom. I thought that if my babies could take a bottle, then just anyone off the street could feed them and mother them as well as I could.
And I was wrong.
I just couldn’t physically make 2.5 liters of milk a day (not an exaggeration). That didn’t make me a bad mom. It made me a human instead of a cow.
And likewise, sometimes I see a mom give her kids candy or get away with bullying and I want to to march in and give her a piece of my mind. And then I remember the types of women who lectured me when I gave my boys bottles, and I reign my crazy in. We’re all different types of mothers. We don’t need to be the same, because our kids and our lives aren’t the same.
What kind of mom are you?
A good mom.
Is that enough of an answer?
I try really, really hard to be a good mom.
\Thanks for letting me participate, this was such a fun little thing to fill out, and I was searching through pictures for it and found lots of gems that I hadn’t seen in months! I need to start printing more photos!
Go show Becky and the boys some love over on her blog! And be sure to check out her photoshop actions – HoneyBee Actions – I absolutely ADORE them and they make photo editing a breeze. She uses them all over her blog, and I’m sure on every one of the pictures (but don’t quote me on that)
Also – if you’re celebrating your First Momma-versary in 2012 and want to participate send me an email. I would love to have you. babEblessings@rogers.com